Wendy. Periodically. Letting Go.

My mother-in-law once called me a ‘bulldog.” I thought it was a complement, but as it turns out it wasn’t..totally. I had A LOT of trouble letting things go when I perceived something to be unfair or when I (or someone I loved) was taken advantage of. I understand rationally why others take advantage of other people, but my heart is very confused by that. Do you perseverate? I did and still do sometimes. Particularly if there is no good solution or any solution. Then I learned the practice of letting go.

We could all benefit from the skill of letting go. Letting go profoundly changes your headspace. It is a verb and it is a practice. And it is a peace-giving. I have to remember to employ it when big issues come up in my life.

Try this: clench your fists as tight as you can and hold it for 5 seconds. Then let go. What feels better? Letting go does. Each time we let go, we give ourselves permission to move on. Anger signals that something is wrong and we need to address it. Then we need our skills of critical thinking to work out how we are going to handle the situation. No more need for anger. Yet how many of your and your clients hold on?? Anger clouds our ability to think clearly. We don’t have to chase it if we don’t want to.

I have to give many things to the universe. I open my palm and ask the universe to hold it instead of me holding it. Most times I have to pair the act of letting go with act of compassion - as usually they go hand in hand. Today I was taken advantage of, not in a life altering way, but in a shitty way. Now, I can make myself sick over it, or I can take control back, welcome in compassion and let go of my anger. The outcomes are not going to change, and I will feel better. And that is all of the outcome I now need.